As each New Year approaches, most of us are making plans to celebrate the incoming year with formal parties, by engaging in activities with our family members and friends, or, attending a public event, such as the Ball Drop that is held in Times Square in New York City. Unfortunately, if we have recently experienced a loss of a loved one, we may look upon the New Year with dread, sadness, and a high level of devastation. How can we possibly go on and celebrate life through the New Year when our loved one is not by our side? Why should we feel happy when our loved one is no longer capable of feeling anything at all? If any of this sounds familiar to you, it is important that you eliminate all distractions immediately and continue reading this series. Here, you will learn healthy methods for keeping the memory of your loved one alive during the New Year.
Avoid Completely Letting Go
When we lose a loved one, the most sincere of all condolences seem to suggest that time will heal the immense pain in which we are experiencing and that we should focus on moving on so that the memories associated with that person will fade. If you have lost a loved one, it is important to know that the pain experienced from the loss may continue for years. In fact, depending on how close you were to that person, the pain may linger for the duration of your lifetime. The memories that we have of our loved ones will not ever completely disappear. In fact, it is not healthy to even try to block them or make them disappear. The first step to moving through your grief is to avoid completely letting go of the feelings and memories that you associate with the loved one and their absence from your life. You should commit to keeping the memories of your loved one alive throughout the upcoming New Year and each New Year thereafter….
Focus on Remembrance
It has been established that if we deny the emotions associated with the loss of a loved one, we could delay the pain, anger, and trauma of that loss; however, if we allow ourselves to completely become immersed in the grief, we could experience a lifetime of pain and exceptional levels of depression. Where is the middle ground? In order to remember your loved one in the New Year in a healthy and productive manner, you should focus on creating remembrance. This is a healthy way to keep that person alive during the New Year. Essentially, when you focus on remembrance, you are placing a special recognition on the person’s life and the positive impact that they had on your life. This will allow you to continue living in a positive and productive manner, while cherishing the memories of your loved one. For more methods of remembering your loved ones in a positive manner, click HERE.
